bono11

help me wat do i do me and my boyfriend slept together and now i'm 3 weeks pregnant i don't know if i should keep it because my dad would hit the roof. the only people that now are my best friend and boyfriend and my boyfriend say he don't want it wat do i do

WP1

first of all let me congratulate you on your baby and good luck for future.

PS: didn't you learn anything in the sex education class?

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Eve

If you're only 15 i dont think that you should keep it, and if your boyfriend doesnt want it then it is likely he might not stick around to help you raise the baby....

I know that it seems crazy but you need to tell your parents...most probably they will be disappointed but understanding....

I wish you all the best in this situation

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rainbow_hippie

thats a difficult one. for starters do you know for sure that you're pregnant? if you havent already then take a pregnancy test.

if you're in the united kingdom then there are free clinics you can go to for support and advice, go to www.ruthinking.co.uk to find one close to you (theres an "in your area" section which alows you to type in your postcode and find one near you.) theres also general advice and things which you might find useful. also whatever course you decide to take, keeping the baby, abortion or adoption, they will be able to help you with it. you can also take your friend with you for support.

dont let anyone pressure you towards any particular option, make your own decisions. whatever you decide i wish you luck.

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graceful77

i think u need to get tested for STD's first of all

and about the baby tell your parents b/c they will understand and i think that u should keep the baby it is very hard in the beginning to raise it but later on it gets easier and also u shouldn't have had sex first of al....and this is coming from someone who was pregnant at age 11 and i couldn't carry the baby and i went through a month and the baby was born dead and they told me i cant get pregnant till like 18 if ever plus drugs dont help alot with babies either so....but plz tell your parents it does help alot

ILaniJ247

1. congrats (i think) no...i gotta do this.


2. One you need to send his b-hind to the curb. If he was all right with sticking it in, why doesn't he want it? I swear it's dudes like him that make me just wanna beat all of their and tell them like it is. I swear, guys have some of the greatest nerve....

Men sya its great, boys say its fine. Nine months later, they sya it ain't mines....RMEMBER THAT


3. What you need to do is go to the doctors office. Go to a clinic or something. You're gonna have to tell your parents. Make sure that someone else is there. (i told my momz i was pregnant and she fought me, kicked me out, and caused me to have a miscarriage). Then, you have to lets his parents know. When i had my first child, I was really really young and had literally just started getting my period. when his mother found out, she was thrilled, but she made sure i got my prenatal care. Momsz are usually more "helpful" when it comes to stuff like that.

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babyblue44

I would like wish you congrats on the baby and if it was me personally i would keep the baby only because of the things i believe in. God blessed you with this gift and you have the final say in whether you want this gift or not... There are pros and cons to both sides of this. If you keep the baby you can enjoy the love of a child but you may also lose some of the things in life you want or desire. If you abort the baby, you have to live with the guilt of knowing that child could of had a great life, but on the other hand you would be able to fufill stuff like going to school and getting a full education and a proper job. BUT remember you can always go BACK to school later in life... the final descion is up to you no1 can really change your mind, if you think about it you already know what you're goin to do. Just remember no matter what you do God has your back and he loves you...
Jah Blessins (that means God bless in jamaican)
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rikk22

im a guy and in his teens...and i surely would like to father a baby...

i understand why many guys wouldnt want to father a baby early in their life but personally for me..im ready and would prefer much so to have one early in life because i dont want to be a father when im over 27... that way im not too old when my child(ren) grows up...

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Jellybean

hmm, i would like to say congratulations too.
although if i was ever in that situation i would most definately have an abortion, for one my father would absolutely go off is head, he would probably kick me out if i decided to keep it. and i couldn't handle something like that so young. maybe when i'm in my 20s.. although i haven't even decided if i want kids at all! haha

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dovgrizly

what are you all nuts?? stop congratilating and encouraging the poor girl to keep the baby!
listen to me, you are only fifteen! if you keep the baby your life as you know it will be over, you will give away the best years of your life for nothing.

also, think of the baby. what kind of life will he have? you cannot support him and give him what he needs in your age, you are just a kid. do you want him to grow up filled with guilt for ruining your entire life?

you will have plenty of time to be a mother, now its the time to be a teen and enjoy life. abortion is never a good solution, but in your case - its the only solution.

rikk22

ARE YOU SERIOUS! How can you disregard the life of the baby? Fair enough, it does compromise her life but destroying one's life for the sake of the happiness of another is JUST PLAIN SELFISH. When she engaged in sexual intercourse, she should have taken the risks into considerations, and clearly in this she didnt. The thing she should do now is accept the consequence naturally and move on.

Keeping the baby doesnt always mean throwing away your life, in fact the advent of the baby might even bring her own family (mum and dad) to be close. Together, they can help bring up the child, while she goes to school/college.

In any case, i dont think abortion is good, unless maybe if the baby is threatening the physical life of the carrier, or it having serious physical abnormalities.

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Ramzki

What do you mean by "stop congratulating"??? Ah, what the heck, I'll do it anyway!: Congratulations on your new baby!
Well...all I can say is that you can't keep hiding your pregnancy to your parents. You have to tell them - whether you like it or not. It's better that they find out now and be surprised than find out later and scold you for not telling them any sooner.
Well, I wish you all the luck on what you will do!

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prieraceae

seriously, you'd rather ask for advice from a bunch of people you don't know over your parents in regards to a potentially life changing event? with that kind of intelligence, You should deffinately being killin' that baby.

Ramzki

Well, whoever said that it was easy to ask your parents for advice, especially if you're a teen? LOL. Though it has to be done, it's never easy. That's the reason why this girl asked us for advice before her parents.

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Punk_Scene

Personally, I think you should keep the baby. I know someone who got pregnant at your age and she's one of the best mom's I know.

My Aunt had a kid at sixteen, the dad backed out but came back into the picture. The dad will back out, because he's scared. When he realizes everythings taking a change and it's going to be okay, he'll come back into the picture. The thing you need to remember is that you canot let him come TOO FAR into the picture. Next thing you know he's going to take your kid to Las Vegas and have eleven other kids. You'll be sneaking up to Vegas when he's in his early twenties trying to see him. Well, that's what happened to us, anyway. She has 3 kids to this day, best mother I know. This story just goes to show miracles of birth.

If you didn't think it over tell your parents and then you'll get help with deciding some plans for the baby.

Congrats ^^