psychmeout

Because people are afraid of what they do not understand. Since the majority does not feel sexually attracted to members of the same sex, they do not understand why others do... They think that it is simply a perverted choice that people make. Since religion also teaches that it is wrong, many people use it as a "crutch" something to lean on when they treat others unfairly and make deicisions based in hate. Unfortunately, this is a very hard idea to change in people. They have to be educated very carefully without offending their beliefs.

My suggestion is to be who you are, don't let what they say dictate how you act. Don't use violence or anything like that to get back at them, because anything you do, they will twist to say that you do it because of your sexuality. If you want to talk to me about it, drop me a line, I'm always here if you need advice. I'm the president of the Gay/Straight Alliance at my school, and although I am straight, many people still ridicule me for what I think and believe.

tapper2

i am straight and i have been feeling like this all the time lately craving for wanting Bf what do i do?

Hanna

The more you concentrate on "craving" a boyfrind, the less likely it is to happen. Maybe you should enjoy trying to be a happy single person who is confident and happy with themselves, then guys will be more likely to be attracted to you...

Desperation and constant seeking is less attractive. Just remember that...
But then again, everyone is different...

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tapper2

You mean if i go around and mope craving and focus all the time of wanting Boyfriend then guys won't find me Attractive but if i do then guys will find me alot attractive?can i just have confidence in myself that will have one and how do i do that when i get bad days?

Hanna

you have a very...interesting way of using (or NOT using as the case may be) punctuation) and I found your whole statement a little confusing.

However, yes you will seem more attractive if you don't mope around and instead be confident and comfortable. But that doesn't mean pretending to be someone you're not because that wont get you anywhere fast and people will probably be able to see through it.

I have no idea what you are saying here, you might have to rephrase.

Just have confidence in yourself that will have one what?

And everyone has bad days, people probably seem less attractive on bad days, but you just have to work through them. Don't let yourself continue to have bad days. (Though, that's easier said than done...)

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JestiiBoo

Well i dont kno why most ppl do it..but i kno i do it cuz i mean to be gay or lesbian is just..wrong...God made man and woman it wasnt Adam and Steve or Eve and Eva in the garden..so if God wanted us to be al up on sum female or male..he woulda made us alll like that..its just..ewwwwww

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Hanna

It's just my opinion, but I think that statement was pretty narrow minded...

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tapper2

even though i can't mope around cause i don't have Boyfriend i could still have confidence in myself and do i have confidence in myself for people to find me Attractive and does losing weight would make me feel more attractive to people too and is eating wrong cause of being down on myself like of what i said and me being jealous of my sis won't get me anywhere of wanting a boyfriend either Right?

Hanna

Eating because you feel down is a common thing. You need to try to find other ways to distract yourself when you feel this way other than snacking and/or binging. It's a hard habit to get out of, but try finding other interesting things to do and try to stay posative.

Jealousy is an annoying emotion to deal with. And again, being jealous of a sibling or a close freind is very common, and also very normal. Just avoid channelling your jealousy into anger or frustration. It's fine to like the way someone else is, to respect and look up to them or recognise them for their posative features, but you can't let that turn into hatred.
Sitting around wishing you were more like your sister won't really get you anywhere. Everyone has good and bad qualities, try not to concentrate too hard on what your sister has that you havn't.

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tapper2

How can i get the snacking and binging out of the way when i feel down and wheni do that its cause nobody doesn't seem to care about or what look like and how i get the jealousy away from me to get further of haveing boyfriend if isee my sister do stuff in front me and then the jealousy comes back and even though i try to stay positive its all comes back to me and agin when i see my si to do stuff in front me and how do i keep my emotions hidden inside of me when i don't want my sis or my othe family see that i am jealous of what i don have?!

Hanna

I can see that either english is not your first language or you are vaguely illiterate! (no offence intended...the second part was a joke.) Either way if you want me to be able to reply to your questions you might want to put some full stops in your posts so I can understand which questions I am answering and where one point ends and another one starts...

Ok, like I said, getting out of the habit of snacking is a difficult thing to do. And snacking is a common thing to resort to when you are feeling down. But things wont always be this way. You are still get young. Young people get moody and frustrated, it's all part of the package, but really, the more you stay posative, the more you will look back on them fondly.
Like I said, you really need to find something else other than snacking that keeps you distracted and entertained so you stop feeling down and dont resort to snacking...

It sucks to feel as though no one cares, but I don't think it's entirely true. I am sure there are people around you who care about you and like you the way you are.

It's also frustrating to see your sister doing stuff in front of you, and wont help your jealousy situation. Perhaps you could ask her if she'd avoid doing things right in front of you. And about your jealousy, if you have an open relationship with her, perhaps you could tell her you look up to her and would like to be a bit more like her, perhaps she too could give you some advice?

Don't try to keep your emotions hidden. Pushing them away or hiding them inside is the makings of a very unhappy person. you need to find someone close you can confide in, to open up to. It's no good to keep feelings bottled up inside. Do you have any close freinds you could talk about this with? Or parents? Or maybe even your sister?
If not you could see a counsellor to talk about your emotions with. It's normal for you not to want your sister or your family not to see how you feel, but it might be even better if you could talk to them about it, become more open and trusting, so that they could all be there to support you.
What do you think?

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tapper2

[quote=Hanna;32690]I can see that either english is not your first language or you are vaguely illiterate! (no offence intended...the second part was a joke.) Either way if you want me to be able to reply to your questions you might want to put some full stops in your posts so I can understand which questions I am answering and where one point ends and another one starts...

Ok, like I said, getting out of the habit of snacking is a difficult thing to do. And snacking is a common thing to resort to when you are feeling down. But things wont always be this way. You are still get young. Young people get moody and frustrated, it's all part of the package, but really, the more you stay posative, the more you will look back on them fondly.
Like I said, you really need to find something else other than snacking that keeps you distracted and entertained so you stop feeling down and dont resort to snacking...

It sucks to feel as though no one cares, but I don't think it's entirely true. I am sure there are people around you who care about you and like you the way you are.

It's also frustrating to see your sister doing stuff in front of you, and wont help your jealousy situation. Perhaps you could ask her if she'd avoid doing things right in front of you. And about your jealousy, if you have an open relationship with her, perhaps you could tell her you look up to her and would like to be a bit more like her, perhaps she too could give you some advice?

Don't try to keep your emotions hidden. Pushing them away or hiding them inside is the makings of a very unhappy person. you need to find someone close you can confide in, to open up to. It's no good to keep feelings bottled up inside. Do you have any close freinds you could talk about this with? Or parents? Or maybe even your sister?
If not you could see a counsellor to talk about your emotions with. It's normal for you not to want your sister or your family not to see how you feel, but it might be even better if you could talk to them about it, become more open and trusting, so that they could all be there to support you.
What do you think?[/QUOTE if i ask my sister to try to avoid doing things in front of me then she will get mad i have done that before and i am trying to stay away from snacking cause when i see my sis she and my niece and her friend says i look fat so i am tring to excercise before i gosee them again i have talk to her friend about this and he understands but i am not supposed to like her friend but i do i feel like i have a rival with my sis ?so you say the jealousy i feel won't get me any further of haveing a boyfriend if i keep feeling it how do i block the jealousy out so i could get further of haveing boyfriend even when my sister does stuff in front of me?how can i control the outbursts when i feel frustration and emotionally jealous of her when i see her do stuff and i don't want my sister and niece and nephew to see what is wrong and is doing emotionally outbursts of jealousy being immature?cause thats what my family tells me?

Hanna

It sounds like you need to find another person to confide in. It doesnt seem like much of a problem to your family, but if you hold it in it will only get worse.
you need a close freind or a counsellor to talk about it with

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tapper2

I am used to confiding to this person i like to talk to him but my family doesn't i think a counselor would make things worse and plus i am afraid how my family would react to it they in into a fit really easy!

Hanna

it is unfair by the sounds of it. if you cant explain in words (speak-y words) maybe you should write them a letter explaining that you arent just being immature. that it's a serious issue, and that you are upset with yourself. deal with it maturely without anger and they ought to respect the way you act about it. tell them that they shouldnt ignore it, it's important to you that something changes, and you are hurt by the way they have treated you as immature when there is a serious problem with your life that is getting you down..

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"Photographer? I thought you were a Jazz-Poet?"
"I am! I span many genres. They call me the genre span-er"
"They call you the spanner"
Vince Noir and Howard Moon